Comparison

Happy Monday all. It’s been a minute but mom life has been calling. Plus I just didn’t feel “inspired”.

Have you ever felt that you just didn’t measure up? Have you ever caught yourself comparing yourself to another mom? Another parent? I find myself doing it often. I’m not one of these mommas that like to go to the mall, that likes getting nails done, etc. I’m the kind of mom who is perfectly content watching marathons on tv and eating junk food. My selfies with my kids don’t look perfect. Our hair is usually a mess, someone is making a goofy face, I look too fat, etc. I see moms that fix the perfect little class treats whereas I go to Party City or Walmart and get a big bag of candy. I’m not crafty. I see moms that fix little girls up and they look so cute. Mine? They look like an army of squirrels have fixed their hair. I do good to put a pony tail in. Most mornings trying to fix my 5 year old’s hair is like trying to baptize a cat. It’s not a good thing.

Then I look at what I do have. I have happy kids. I have a little girl that tells me she loves me every few minutes that we’re together. She thanks me for every little thing that I give her. She’s happy with the big bag of candy from Walmart. She’s happy that I like to cuddle on the couch and watch tv with her. 

I have always been a working mommy. I haven’t ever been able to break away to go to cupcakes with mommy or go volunteer at my kids schools. My work didn’t allow it. I asked my oldest girl how she felt. Her answer filled me with pride and also made me a little emotional “Mom. You work hard. I have food and clothes. I have nice things. I wouldn’t have that if you didn’t work so hard. The school functions are nice and all but I would rather you work for the family. She said I know you stress about putting food on the table and keeping a roof over our heads. I’m proud of you mom. You have done this on your own.”

So I say all of that to say this. Don’t compare. No two snowflakes are alike therefore we as parents shouldn’t be alike. Don’t compare yourself to Susie on Instagram. The thing about social media is people let us see what they want us to see. We don’t see that it probably took 20 times to get that perfect shot. We don’t see the screaming to sit still. We don’t see the “behind the scenes” stuff. So if you are comparing yourself to others based on social media just stop. Stop it right now. You focus on you and yours. You know what’s real. You know what works for you.

So put your hair up in the sloppy bun and make a goofy selfie. Go get a big bag of candy. Don’t stress that the cupcakes came out underdone. Don’t cry over not having sprinkles. Be you. Be the wonderful you that you were meant to be.

Happy Monday and remember to be unique. No one likes a copycat.

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